A full understanding and correct understanding of sexual knowledge is beneficial to improving the sexual life of couples. However, some misunderstandings that lack scientific basis have become stumbling blocks in love. Authoritative experts summed up 7 destructive wrong statements, compare them, and don’t fall into these sex traps.
Mistake #1: Good Sex Is Spontaneous
Not a few people think that sex happens naturally and that if it requires planning, it means you’re not looking for the right person. In fact, this kind of thinking is not only an immature sexual concept, but more seriously, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Correct understanding: couples have lived together for 10 years or even longer, and their sex life is almost impossible to be as passionate and spontaneous as when they were passionately in love.
A long-term and good sex life often requires both parties to work together and plan together. Such couples often arrange the time of sex and arrange sex in the priority position of important matters.
These couples are always sexually curious, discovering new things, and exploring together. They compliment each other sexually, know exactly how their partners like to caress, and can read each other’s body language, with just a word or even a gesture.
Mistake 2: Every sex should be great
Some people are “sex perfectionists” who always wait for all the conditions to be perfect before making love. For example: both of you are free, both are enthusiastic, your hair style and body are both excellent, there are no children around, and you can relax with a glass of wine, etc.
These people expect every sex to be perfect, with orgasms every time, ideally both partners.
Correct understanding: A healthier and more realistic sex pattern should be: out of 10 sex times, 4 times are okay, 4 times are good, 1 time is wonderful, and 1 time is boring.
Sex experts say there is no need to change the status quo as long as sex doesn’t turn into a “disaster”. Don’t put pressure on yourself, and don’t try to count orgasms. The most important thing is that husband and wife should maintain skin-to-skin contact and feel happy with each other.
Mistake 3: Sex is better when young than middle-aged
Surveys have found that estrogen levels peak in women in their 30s. This time is actually “peak sex life,” but most wives are so busy with raising children and coping with life and professional pressures that sex is largely neglected. Sex becomes a stressor, not fun.
Getting it right: Couples who have a good relationship have the best sex at the age of 40. The older you get, the better your sex life will be. Studies have found that people’s satisfaction with sex really peaks when they are 60-69 years old. For older people, sexIt is an important manifestation of good health and life satisfaction.
Mistake 4: You shouldn’t watch porn and masturbate after marriage
Many people are deeply disappointed when their spouses secretly watch porn and masturbate after they get married and have a normal sex life.
Getting it right: Real sex is actually a different experience than watching porn or masturbating in private, but both are very pleasurable.
So, just because a partner masturbates in private doesn’t mean he or she isn’t completely satisfied with the conjugal love affair. Many people increase their desire through masturbation.
Mistake 5: There is no time when a man does not like sex
A woman’s libido can go up and down due to hormonal changes and the menstrual cycle. But it is often assumed that male desire is rarely influenced by external factors.
Correct understanding: The strength of male desire will also have similar changes at certain times of the day, week or month.
Poor diet, sleep deprivation, poor health, high stress levels, relationship troubles, lack of self-confidence, use of certain medications, and alcohol abuse affect not only female desire, but male desire as well.
Mistake 6: Sex Reflects Control
Love is indeed about power, but it is more about giving up power and giving up control, making the ego more “vulnerable”.
Correct understanding: In terms of sexual needs and actions, you should be completely honest with your partner and communicate openly and honestly. Letting go and allowing your partner to see the real you is a key factor in keeping couple sex alive.
Mistake 7: I can’t reach the climax because I have a problem
Many women do not have orgasms during sex, and they often attribute this to their own bodies, and even fake orgasms to do so.
Correct understanding: Women must first be confident in their bodies, and guide their partners to have more foreplay and stimulate the clitoris correctly.