The editor has received many private chats from fans, asking me why my relationship with my husband has faded after giving birth? So today I will share my opinion on this issue, come and have a look.
1. The wife experiences postpartum depression
The term postpartum depression appeared in our lives very early What’s more, due to improper handling, wives do not get the care they want, and there are also cases of suicide after giving birth. From this we can see that postpartum depression is not a trivial matter.
But it is not only wives who have postpartum depression. A small number of dads who have not experienced pregnancy will also experience postpartum depression.
In 2016, He Jie was often unable to control her emotions due to postpartum depression. He Jie also admitted that because she had 2 children within 3 years, she felt out of shape, and felt depressed that she was useless except for breastfeeding. She once wanted to commit suicide. Husband He Ziming chose to divorce because he couldn’t stand his wife.
This is the epitome of countless postpartum depression families. The husbands lack understanding and tolerance, which often leads to the end of the marriage.
2. The wife does not have enough sleep or both parties do not have enough sleep
The problem of insufficient sleep basically occurs in families who have just given birth to a baby. Insufficient sleep together, on the one hand, because the baby’s sleep is very irregular, night crying and frequent night waking are normal; on the other hand, the baby will keep crying because of gastrointestinal discomfort or physical discomfort, killing new parents. patience.
Of course, we all know that people who lack sleep will have a bad temper and have difficulty controlling their emotions. As time goes by, many problems and conflicts will arise between husband and wife, and it becomes commonplace to have a small quarrel every three days.
3. The distribution of housework is unfair
I read a joke before, which is very realistic. Men and women before marriage: men go to work; women go to work; men and women after marriage: men go to work; women go to work + earn money + take care of children + sleep + dress + bathe + play with children + buy vegetables + cook + shop + supervise and study + pick up after-school classes + Participate in various activities for children + Mental health education for children’s height, fat and thin + Laundry + Cleaning at home + Parents’ greetings from both parents are messy and a lot of miscellaneous things…
From this we can see that a wife needs to bear In addition to taking care of crying babies at night, breastfeeding for a long time, and coaxing them to sleep, these wives also have to clean, cook, and do housework during the day, but they may be despised by their disrespectful husbands——”Having children at home can have How tiring? “In fact, taking care of a baby at home is often three times more tiring than going to work.
4. The wife lacks contact with the outside world
In the first year after giving birth, most of theMothers will choose to be with their babies, one is because the baby needs it, and the other is because there is really no extra energy to focus on work. You can imagine that the baby cries at night so that the mother does not have enough sleep, so how can she have more energy to work.
So this also led to Baoma’s lack of contact with the outside world, negative emotions could not be vented, and bad emotions continued to ferment. In my opinion, contact with the outside world is a good way to regulate emotions.
And most postpartum mothers turn off this pastime, thinking that the child is the focus. In addition, because women stay at home for a long time and lack of information from the outside world, their vision often becomes narrow and their thinking stagnates. This also increases the risk of not understanding their husbands and causing conflicts.
Summary: Regarding the problem of the relationship between my husband and my husband becoming weaker after having a child, the editor summed up these 4 reasons, Of course there may be other reasons, but most of them are caused by these reasons.
After knowing the reason, we need to prescribe the right medicine, so that the relationship will not become weaker and weaker. In fact, the most effective way is to communicate more with the husband and wife, and to consider the problem from the perspective of the other party , naturally all problems can be solved. Don’t keep suppressing negative emotions in your heart all the time, so that sooner or later it will be broken, but when you want to turn back, you may have no way to turn back.