The Habits of Successful People (Seven Habits of Successful People)
Two Aspects of Success
Aesop’s Fable The Goose and the Golden Egg Such a story: One day, a poor farmer found a golden egg in a goose nest. Although he didn’t believe it was a golden egg at first, he took it home to ponder. To his delight, the egg was pure gold. From now on, every morning the farmer can get a golden egg from the goose nest. However, as he gets richer, he becomes more and more greedy, so he has no patience to just wait for a golden egg every day. He wants to get all the gold at once. So he killed the goose, but got nothing.
The moral of this parable can be applied to our personal and professional lives. We often like this kind of stupid farmer to increase the production of chickens (golden eggs) at the expense of productivity (goose). We are usually more concerned with efficiency than effectiveness. We neglect efficiency in the name of efficiency, undermining our ability to achieve results.
Emotional accounts are a powerful metaphor for describing levels of trust in relationships. The metaphor states that all connections to other people can be imagined as depositing or withdrawing money in a personal trust account. For example, you can deposit affection into someone else’s account by: being kind, keeping a promise, respecting someone’s wishes, being loyal, apologizing. In other words, you invest in the relationship, you build and repair it. Small things build trust, but small things destroy trust. Poor attitude, broken promises, broken expectations, being versatile, and being arrogant are all behaviors that are distilled from relationships.
In this wrap-up, we introduce seven habits of high performers that are consistently applied by those who achieve their desired results. A habit is a pattern of behavior with three overlapping components: desire, knowledge, and skill. Because these three components are learned, effective habits can also be acquired through learning.
These seven habits are interrelated, interdependent, and ongoing, as shown by continuing maturity. People use these habits to achieve mutual success. (Use Habit 456 to Build Relationships) Commit to Personal Achievement (Use Habit 123 to Achieve Self-Discipline): Everyone must be an effective human being to lead others effectively. The seventh habit is the habit of self-renewal, which supports physical, social/emotional, intellectual and spiritual growth.
1. Habit: initiative and enthusiasm
The habit of self-examination. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions. When people use this power to choose reflection based on their values, they are being proactive. In other words, positive people use their freedom to choose the response that best reflects their values. When they commit to things they have the ability to control (sphere of influence), rather than passively worrying about things they have little or no control (areas of concern), they actively influence the situation and strengthen the circle of influence.
Habit: YouyouResource Network starts from the mission and goes all out.
The habits of self-leadership, the most effective people design their own future. They start with a mission in every area of life. They don’t let other people or circumstances determine their outcomes. They carefully plan what they want to be, what they want to do, and what they want to have. Then they let their mental plans guide their decisions. This written life purpose plan is a mission statement. If a person has a mission statement and uses it to guide decisions, he will be aligned with his purpose.
Habit: Do important things first.
Habits of self-management. One of the important ones? One of the most important things is what we think is the most valuable thing to do. They push us in the right direction and help us achieve the principles-driven goals embodied in our mission statement.
One thing is always important and sometimes urgent:
Important: An activity is important if you think it is valuable, i.e. it contributes to Your mission, values, and positive priorities are rewarding.
Urgent: An activity is urgent if you and others believe it needs immediate attention.
When we draw these two components and their opposite sides, four quadrants appear. Of these two quadrants, we focus on quadrant two so we can pursue higher quality in our work and relationships.
Habits: Win-Win Thinking
Habits of Interpersonal Leadership. Win-win thinking is a mental framework that constantly seeks mutual benefit in interpersonal interactions. Win-win means that all win because the agreement or solution is mutually beneficial and satisfying. Both parties are satisfied with the decision and are committed to implementing the plan.
Win-win people have three personality traits: consistency in words and deeds, maturity and open-mindedness. People who walk the talk and stay true to their feelings, values, and responsibilities. Mature people have the courage to express their thoughts and feelings while also considering the thoughts and feelings of others. Open-minded people think there is a lot for everyone.
Habit: Understand others first, and then let others understand yourself.
The habit of communicating. Interpersonal interactions are more effective when we listen in order to understand others. We no longer see things through our own minds, imposing our own experiences on the lives of others. If we put our instincts aside and care about what the other person has to say, then we are better prepared to listen with the intent of understanding them.
The second part of the habit, seeking understanding, requires courage and skill. You need the courage to express your true feelings and be open to ideas. You need the skill to express yourself clearly and clearly, using others as a frame of reference.
Habit: Brainstorm ideas.
Habits of creative collaboration. The root system of mahogany, although shallow, grows very tightly. Their roots are intertwined to prevent the trunk from collapsing when strong winds arrive. Two people working together have the potential to multiply the results of working alone. This principle, that is, the headBrainstorming is also true in social life. Two people working together creatively, relying on each other, will accomplish more than the sum of their individual efforts. They reap the benefits of brainstorming when they value their differences, are open to new possibilities, practice win-win thinking, and build trust.
7. Habit: ready to go
The habit of self-renewal. Saws will dull over time. Serrations can no longer cut wood, and blades can’t cut things effectively. People need to renew themselves so they can function effectively. In other words, they need to maintain and improve themselves. The key to gaining momentum lies in regular and persistent renewal in four areas: physical, social/emotional, spiritual and psychological. Regular physical activity will allow them to take on greater challenges, and meditation and introspection will make their intuition more and more sensitive. Loyal relationships will develop. When people balance and renew these four areas, they reinforce the effectiveness of all habits. In doing so, they grow, change and improve.