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“Why is he less and less willing to chat with me?” Many women will have such questions.
Indeed, when a man gets along with a woman for a long time, such a phenomenon will appear. The topics that can be talked between two people gradually become less and less, as if they are getting farther and farther away from each other’s spiritual world.
Even if a woman takes the initiative to find some topics, what she gets is a casual response from the other party. But at this time, a woman’s sensitive heart will think wildly. Is he not interested in me, or does he not love me?
Even some impatient women can’t help but get angry at each other and ask each other: “What do you want?”
In fact, in my opinion, most men and women spend a long time together It’s hard to talk about it. This is caused by the difference in thinking between men and women.
Most men are not born with many words, and they are not as keen on chatting as women. Those are the only reasons they don’t want to chat.
First of all, they themselves do not understand why chatting is so important to women. When he likes you or is in love with you, they chat with you, not because of the chat itself, but because they are eager to see that you are interested in what he has to say. They are keen to enjoy this feeling of “conquest”.
Moreover, chatting with girlfriends who have been together for many years, or chatting with his wife will make them feel tired, and this uneasy feeling will make him feel bored.
Because for women, the content of the chat often includes topics such as parents, children, economy, salary, shopping, etc. Men are not interested in these topics, and may even find them extremely boring and intimidating.
Also, when many women chat with men, they often talk about other topics, and when they think of the past, they can’t help but blame other side. This kind of time is too much, and the experience of men is naturally not good, and they are even less willing to chat.
Of course, in addition to these three reasons, there are many reasons why men are unwilling to chat with women, which vary from person to person.
No matter what the reason is, when a man, the one you love, is less and less willing to chat with you, it means that it is difficult for you to enter his “spiritual world”.
And this result often leads to more serious consequences. For example, your complaints are getting louder, your feelings are getting weaker, and so on. In order to better handle the relationship between two people and catch the person you love, a woman actually needs to work hard to enter his “spiritual world”.
If you want to reach your goal, you need to pay attention to it. In daily life, don’tTalking to him again, but trying to talk about these topics, may get twice the result with half the effort.
01 If he is keen on games, talk to him about games
There is a saying that a man will never mature. This is reflected in the gameplay of the game.
Unless they are naturally insensitive to games or attach great importance to their careers, there are a large number of men who are generally keen on games, whether it is board games or mobile games, whether they are single or married with children. Don’t forget to have a hand.
When they play games, you will find that they talk more at this time. Whether they’re gay or straight, they can always talk to each other when it comes to games.
This is your chance. You can try to play the games he plays on Youyou.com, and chat with him occasionally. While he is amazed at your playing games, he will often chat with you with great interest.
Of course, chatting with him about games is not your purpose. After trying to chat a few times, find a suitable time to talk to him about other things he is interested in, and then transition to things you like, and he will slowly change.
02 If he is particularly good at a certain field, talk to him about what he is good at
Men like the feeling of “conquest”. You talk to him about the field he is good at, and in the face of your ignorance, they will naturally know themselves out of their own pockets.
During this process, your affirmation of him in your eyes and your recognition and praise of him in words will make him feel proud. In the process of gradually conquering you, he will gradually like chatting with you, and in order to obtain this feeling of being admired by you, he will continue to study in this area and report his results to you from time to time.
At this time, you will find that what you chat with him is not only what he is good at, but also equivalent to walking into his spiritual world.
03 Talk about something that will make you laugh out loud
Said earlier However, there are reasons why men don’t want to chat with women. One reason is that they find chatting with women always too heavy. Therefore, if you want to walk into their hearts, the premise is that the topics you talk to him will not be too boring, nor will they make him feel disgusted and heavy.
In your free time, you can talk to him about movies, Youyou.com songs or a book you read, and some gossip. These topics are often not so heavy, but the chat can make you feel light-hearted and laughable.
Don’t talk to them about things that upset him, like work, salary, family, etc. Life is already hard, and coming home from get off work on the last day is exhausting. If you make it worse by this point, keep putting the pressure on them, sooner or later they willwill be out of breath, and they will naturally want to run away.
When you can make the other party feel relaxed and happy in the chat, it is easy to enter the other party’s spiritual world and intervene in other topics.
At this time, if you talk to him about your parents’ shortcomings, about your future, about your work and career, he will hardly be too repulsive.
In fact, no matter what you talk about with him, it’s not that important. It’s important not to start off by talking about topics that don’t interest him or even weigh him down. Both men and women are very reluctant to talk about this.
What is chatting for? For women, it is nothing more than wanting to communicate with each other or not to be alone. For this purpose, talking about his favorite topics and arousing his desire to respond to you is the direction you should try to chat.
Of course, some women think that even if you don’t want to chat with a man who likes you, he will do everything possible to chat with you and want to enter your spiritual world. If a man doesn’t like you, no matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to get him to respond.
Actually, in my opinion, there is no need to be so pessimistic. Sometimes men also need to vent and chat. As long as you can enter their spiritual world and shoot with him, they are unwilling to remain silent and refuse to communicate.
In addition, speaking is actually an art and a science. Chatting with people who can chat is a kind of enjoyment, and chatting with people who can’t chat is a kind of suffering.
So, if you have tried these three methods and still can’t get into the other person’s heart, you might as well learn how to speak first. Regardless of men and women, in order to be able to spend a longer time with the person you like, you must always work hard and manage this relationship with your heart.