Shyness seems to be a hindrance to our ability to get along with others or take on challenges. We will find that those who are extroverted and optimistic are easily challenged because they have courage. Then, we have to learn to be brave. The following simple and practical psychology introduces five ways to overcome timidity.
Question and inquiry method
Assume that the other party is a passerby, and then ask the other party to answer some questions that you know but pretend not to know, just like asking for directions. In this way, you can take the initiative of language by using Youyou.com. Whether the other person’s answer is right or wrong, you have to listen carefully. Even if the other person is wrong, you have to “make mistakes” to show your gratitude. Because, the purpose of this inquiry is not to find any answer, but to open the floodgate of language communication between you and the other party. As long as the other party is willing to answer your questions, half of your intended social plan is already achieved. Once the floodgates of dialogue between the two parties are opened, your original sense of strangeness will naturally disappear.
Effective communication methods
When talking with strangers, don’t care too much about what others think of you, just be careful not to make big mistakes in the conversation, and don’t ask too much of yourself Strict, this is not conducive to communicating with others, and also hinders the improvement of one’s own language level. In fact, as long as you have the right attitude and use effective communication methods, it is not difficult to overcome timidity and fear.
Build self-confidence and overcome timidity.
We should be fully prepared for one thing. Once you are ready, practice repeatedly, and your chances of success will be much greater. For things that we are confident to do well, we will be less afraid and less timid. When these things become the norm, we get used to it, and naturally we don’t feel timid. And there are too many such things, and this is a long-term process.
Be aware of your body language.
Body language is a reflection of our body. It represents our emotions and attitudes. It is another form of language that can be perceived by us. When we are scared, we also express some body language, such as trembling and breaking out in a cold sweat. Timid people also have some body language, such as trembling in speech and inarticulate voice. When there is such body language, it also reflects our timidity from the side. So, if there is such body language, try to change it, express your thoughts boldly, don’t be afraid.
Look for opportunities to express yourself.
Timid people actually feel that they are timid, which is their own virtual psychological feelings. Scaring yourself with virtual psychological feelings or hallucinating situations is tantamount to tying yourself in a cocoon. Many people are nervous and timid before performing on stage, but when they step on the stage, I put my heart and soul into the performance, so I don’t feel timid, and I feel surprised when I perform freely. From personal experience, they say, it’s an important step to overcome timidity. After taking one step, you will find a new self, surprise yourself, find feeling, find confidence, and find self-esteem. So, in order to overcome and overcome timidity, you can first assume that you are not timid, not afraid to speak in class, take the opportunity to perform on stage, speak loudly in public places, participate in debates, etc. , and try to do it in a way that is not timid. Slowly, you really won’t be timid.
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