It is painful for a wife to have a husband cheating, but no matter how painful it is, I find that many wives are unwilling to divorce. So in this case, how should we survive the pain of betrayal? My advice, if you also have this problem, hurry up and take a look with the editor!
Why do I If we want to survive the pain of betrayal, we must learn to be selfish. In fact, the reason is very simple, because I have observed the reasons why most wives are unwilling to divorce:
If I get divorced, A child will not have a father…
And the truth is: a child will not have a father, a man is still the father of the child, but you do not have a husband.
If I get divorced, my parents and relatives will think I am ashamed…
But the truth is: if you are willing to spend time and patience, you can convince your parents of their ideas and Thoughts, after all, they are the ones who love you the most. Even if they can’t be persuaded, they will only feel ashamed for a while. After the divorce, after you work hard to manage your life in a good way, they will be relieved and agree with you. So as for other people’s criticisms, let them talk, life is your own after all, you know how well you are.
If I get divorced, I can’t raise the child alone, or I can’t take the child away…
I can’t leave him, and I still have feelings for him…
I don’t want my child to live in a family with a single parent or a stepmother…
Then in this case, according to the actual situation, deal with extramarital affairs as soon as possible and learn the knowledge of marital crisis management , solve the problem thoroughly. Turn this crisis of extramarital affairs into a turning point for your marriage. At the same time, heal the pain and rebuild the relationship and trust between husband and wife.
Even in the worst case, you fail in the end and fail to save your marriage and family, at least you worked hard, no As for regret, it’s not too late to prepare in advance and turn around gracefully.
So in the face of cheating, we need to make ourselves “selfish” and think more about ourselves.
We have to think about it carefully:
“What kind of life do I want next?”
“After choosing to divorce or not to divorce, can I put Have a good life?”
“What do I think is the most important thing to me at the moment?”
Don’t listen to too many voices from the outside world, just listen to yourself. Because only when you get better, everything around you will get better! Wives, do you understand?