After the husband cheated, in order to save the marriage, some wives tried to use their status as “princess” to win the battle to defend the marriage, and then interviewed a third party! I want to ask everyone, is it really necessary for a wife to negotiate with a third party? How do smart wives talk with a third party? Let’s take a look!
From experience, I do not recommend wives to negotiate with a third party, because:
The lower the engagement, the better.
Actually, we all know that if he wants to end his extramarital affairs and return to his family, he can do it, but if he can’t, it’s because he doesn’t want to.
At this time, what the wife has to do is to find a way to make him make up his mind, clarify the stakes, and use both kindness and power, carrots and sticks, to put pressure on the man, but there is no need to act on his own.
It takes a process and time for a wife to get rid of the harm of a man’s derailment. Moreover, if you participate in every detail, the harm will only deepen, which is not conducive to healing.
In addition, the wife and the third party had no intersection before, but now they confront each other because of a man, and are even attacked, and the negotiation will collapse, especially when they hear the content that hurts themselves , causing a psychological shadow.
These are not conducive to the restoration of the relationship between husband and wife in the future.
Second, if the wife is not a good gamer, the negotiation will not achieve the expected results.
In fact, truly powerful women know that the key to derailment lies in the man, as long as there is a way to win over the man, everything else is easy to talk about.
To engage in hand-to-hand combat with a third party is to kill one thousand enemies and lose eight hundred.
But most of the wives who choose to negotiate with a third party are often ordinary women, who do not have strong decisiveness and the ability to deal with foreign enemies. mental stress.
Even so, there may not be good results.
So, under what circumstances is it worthwhile for a wife to come out and negotiate with a third party?
Then you have to look at the right time according to each situation, for example, a man has The willingness to return, but the third party cannot be dealt with, or the third party has violated the common interests of the family, and the husband and wife need to work together.
How to grasp the specifics, or to analyze in detail!