According to statistics, the age of 30 to 37 is the high incidence of divorce. In order to avoid divorce from happening to you, what you need is to know the characteristics of divorced couples in advance. Let’s take a look with the editor.
1. No emotional basis
At the beginning of the marriage, the couple did not have equal love The foundation! If the marriage is not supported by the feeling of mutual love, then even if you have survived the seven-year itch, you must prevent divorce in the future.
It is not often said that the person who is with us for a lifetime is not the one we love the most. Many times we have to admit it even if we don’t admit it, the person we once loved the most has become someone else’s lover!
This sentence is very realistic, and it directly points out the biggest source of conflict in marriage: many married Everyone has regrets, and many married people still miss their ex! Those who are in love are not together, and those who are together do not have a deep enough emotional foundation.
Those marriages that have no foundation of love in the first place. Those marriages that have been introduced by others regard bride price and family background as more important than love. Generally, after marriage, there will be some small conflicts, which can make the couple turn against each other.
Love is a very mysterious thing. Before marriage, love can make two people become husband and wife. But after marriage, love alone is not enough, but also responsibility and tacit understanding. Only couples who have responsibility, love and understanding can live together forever.
Without love, it means that it is difficult for husband and wife to cultivate a tacit understanding. Today’s marriage is no longer a marriage of “marry a chicken and follow the chicken, marry a dog and follow the dog”, and getting married may not necessarily lead to a lifetime.
2. Formal couple
The husband and wife are a family on the surface, but each has its own relative independence circles. Although this kind of couple respects each other as guests in front of outsiders, they do not know how to appreciate each other. This kind of couple is commonly known as “formal couple”! Formal couples can either survive to the end, or they will divorce after the age of 30 and before the age of 40.
Generally speaking, formal couples are an acquired marriage habit. To put it bluntly, they live together! What we have to admit is that many couples today are formal couples!
For example, couples who often work overtime and regard work as more important than their relationship. For example, a couple who is never satisfied and compares their shortcomings with the strengths of others. For example, couples who live apart in order to make money!
Formal couples also have a sense of anxiety, and as they get older, the anxiety becomes stronger and stronger. After the age of 30, if you can pass this hurdle, you will generally be able to pass to the end. If you can’t pass it, you will usually get a divorce. Although they know that marriage is important, they will gradually feel that their significant other is not as good as other half.
If you think your marriage is a formIf your significant other is always picking on you, you should pay attention. You have to prevent your lover from being ambiguous with others, and you have to change your habits immediately and cultivate your relationship with your heart!
3. Unsatisfactory married life
Couples whose married life is unsatisfactory must learn to use companionship to make up for it. In any case, this kind of couple cannot be separated for a long time. If they are separated for a long time, it is very easy to have extramarital affairs, and they will be on the verge of divorce before they know it.
I once heard a woman talk about extramarital affairs: If it wasn’t for her husband’s frequent business trips, if it wasn’t for a business trip for ten days and a half months, even if our husband and wife life is not harmonious, I would definitely not cheat, let alone Fall in love with that man. But the departure of my husband gave me a lucky chance, so I did something wrong. I regret it now too, but it will be of no use in the future, and the marriage is gone.
Although disharmony in married life is not the reason for cheating! However, if your married life is not harmonious and you still separate, then don’t blame the third party, who told you not to accompany you.
We often say that when a husband and wife have a good relationship, two people are one person, and each other is the other half of the other. If the relationship between husband and wife is not good, two people will become two families and divorce is easy. Many couples can share joys but cannot share sorrows, can share sorrows but cannot share joys. If you don’t consider the needs of the other party, the other party will consider finding a substitute. This is the most direct manifestation of the conflict between husband and wife.
Summary: The ten years after the age of 30 is a period of high incidence of divorce for many couples. There are reasons for love, reasons for family responsibilities, and reasons for third parties. If any one factor goes wrong, divorce may occur. If you want to live well, you must be with you, and you must be loyal to love and family. Companionship is the longest confession of love. A marriage without companionship is definitely not a good marriage.