No one can tell you about feelings. If you don’t inform you in advance when you come, you won’t say hello when you leave. This has caused many babies to wonder why some people’s feelings are getting better and better, while their own feelings can only get worse and worse? Today we will take a look at what causes this! Let’s take a look This article “The reason why the relationship is getting weaker” brought by the editor!
Never avoid conflict
This is the reason why the relationship between those couples is getting weaker and weaker.
Some people are very Buddhist. When they have a dispute, they hide when they can.
After all, I have the right to choose my own conflict: face and avoid.
It takes energy to face it, maintain the relationship, and it is tiring to think about it. How easy it is to avoid, if not, see the next one.
If you think like this, I advise you to stay single.
The essence of conflict is intimacy. Once you form an intimate relationship, conflict is bound to arise.
But more people are not deliberately avoiding conflicts, but TA has no better way to resolve this conflict.
For girls, many people must encounter a situation: they can’t even quarrel.
I was full of grievances waiting to vent, but I felt hit on a ball of cotton, which was very uncomfortable.
Because the other party always likes to say:
I don’t want to quarrel with you;
If you want to think so, I can’t help it. You are right;
You can do whatever you want;
…
This is a typical conflict avoidance.
It makes girls feel like they are talking about stand-up comedy, there is no audience and no praise.
Just when I was so uncomfortable and wanted to throw something, I turned my head and the other party went to sleep.
You! Unexpectedly! Still! Can! Sleep! Got! With?!
Girls Emotions have nowhere to rest, so they have to be firmly suppressed, only to erupt again one day, and the cycle repeats.
So the conflict in the relationship has never been positively responded and resolved.
Therefore, neither of them is aware of what the other’s emotions are.
What girls want is emotional security: I just want you to understand that I am wronged now, and I need you to comfort me and coax me.
What boys want is quietness: If you don’t listen to the truth, you can’t beat me with nonsense, what else can I do, keep silent, talk less and make less mistakes.
When two people are thinking about themselves, the conflict will be returnedAvoiding demand will be covered up.
The most terrifying thing is that they all think they are right.
Girl: “Arguing is also a kind of communication. I want to communicate with you. Is it wrong?”
Boy: “I just want to avoid escalating conflicts and destroying relationships. Is it?”
Together: “I think we are not suitable, not because we don’t love, but because we are not suitable.”
Is there any breakup in love because of incompatibility?
Of course there are, but there are many people who are not, but think they are.
Why are you afraid of conflict?
There are many factors that contribute to this situation.
Maybe it’s a series of problems caused by seeing too many parents quarreling, smashing things, fighting, and divorce. Subconsciously, people will exaggerate the consequences of conflict.
Maybe the other party has tried to communicate with you, but to no avail. So choose to give up.
The other party has a cold, but you give him Xieliding;
You have a fever, but the other party gives you a tranquilizer.
Has no effect.
There are some things that you only know after talking about them.
But if you don’t talk about it, you can only rely on guesswork.
Of course it is not easy to do this, and the initial effect will not be very good. The effective communication awareness between the two has just begun, and it is not so easy to build mutual trust.
Note:
When you guide the other party to no avail many times and get worse, it’s not your problem, it’s his problem.
It’s not that he doesn’t understand, he just doesn’t want to pay.
This kind of person is the best plan!