The so-called marriage (there are “standards” behind the so-called happy marriage)
Some time ago, Liu Shishi’s postpartum comeback status was hotly discussed by netizens. In the photo, she is slender, gentle and pleasant, and looks very beautiful. In fact, Liu Shishi is a very “smart” woman in the entertainment and love circles.
In the workplace, she is well aware of her “personality” and temperament, and treats it indifferently, but because of this, she has become a clear stream and full of popularity;
She He also knows his place in Wu Qilong’s heart. In order to avoid being sentimental because of the drama, she deliberately lengthened the investigation period of the relationship. I didn’t agree to confirm the relationship until I was sure Nicky really loved her.
In fact, many girls struggle in their relationship because they don’t know their place in men’s hearts, so they do some outdated and inappropriate things. Behind the so-called happy marriage, there are “standards”.
1. Smart women know how to “position” and “set standards” for men!
To put it bluntly, it is actually “no matter what identity you have, you must have a sense of identity”. If the other party’s behavior clearly regards you as a prostitute, then you must have the heart of “wife” or “girlfriend”. If you want to say that you have nothing to do with him, but just friends, you have to live together or have sex, which does not qualify as a “friend”.
Please be sure to figure out what your position is, and then do what you should do as Youyou Resource Network, and think about how you should view this identity.
If it is ***, take safety precautions, have sex afterwards, and then turn around and leave;
If you want to be the other party’s girlfriend, you must have reservations. If the other person doesn’t have any input, don’t do anything but polite physical contact. After the other party invests in you, you have to consider whether the other party’s investment strength and sincerity are combined into one.
It is not good to be treated as a **** by the other party, feel that you are a girlfriend or wife, have no position to control the other party’s behavior, and take the initiative to have sex with the other party.
Now, only by truly seeing where you are and where you want to be in the future can you have direction.
2. Have you mastered the two key nodes of the initiative?
Here I am going to explain one thing to all my female friends. In an intimate relationship, unless you are chasing backwards, when a man chases you, you have to set it according to your objective comprehensive value. Let men strive to live up to your standards.
The two most important time points of establishing a relationship and entering a marriage relationship are the best time for a woman to take the initiative, because a man will definitely do something for you in order to establish a relationship or marriage relationship with you Change.
But there is a big premise here, that is, your value must be enough to attract the other party. If your value is low, your standards are in vain because he doesn’t think you are worthy of such high standards.
Back to the question, he always coaxes you by taking you to eat delicious food or giving you red envelopes, because this method works, and you didn’t ask him to correct it before you got married; now you are married Once, it is difficult for him to change.
If you really want to soften his heart, in addition to the most severe punishment, you can only increase your own value, give yourself the right to speak, and make the other party feel that the person you marry is excellent. Even for married women, there are many people who appreciate compliments, which makes him feel a sense of crisis, and he will be vigilant about his behavior.
If you stay with the status quo, just theory, then no matter how many times, you’ll stay with the status quo. After all, if you ask about his theory, there is no higher supporting value, only nonsense and complaints.
Third, always respect each other.
If you want to know if a couple is deeply attached or if their relationship is on red flags, you can tell by watching their expressions and tone of voice when they speak.
If either of them gives the other a rolling eye, a sneer, or a sarcastic remark at every turn, it can be declared that their relationship is unlikely to last.
If a person is always condescending to another person, it shows that they lack the most basic respect. This is a bad habit every couple should try to overcome.
Sometimes your partner does act stupid, so think about it from another angle. If you are robbed or laughed at by the other party, you will definitely feel hurt. This force works on another person, and he is hit in the same way.
You have to learn restraint, maintaining the other person’s self-esteem is very important to your relationship.
For women, feelings are greater than reality, while men are calm, which is why women are always in Reasons for passive status.
For example, women in the ambiguous period always regard themselves as the girlfriend of the other party, asking him to love me and care about me, but men will only “position” women as chat objects, so the more women love, the more modest they are .
After the breakup, the woman still did not accept the fact of the breakup, because the man pestered her indifferently and painfully.
Smart women should know how to “position” themselves according to the attitude of men, and use Youyou.com to position themselves, so that they can always take the initiative.
In the long process of getting along , each of us is trying to make love come to the end in our own way.
Work hard, struggle, compromise, and tolerate. Don’t forget the original intention, I hope words can help you get lost.
The article is selected from my WeChat official account, Fu Yi’s Emotion Theory.
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