Three Keys (Three Keys to Self-Growth)
Author: Insight Echo
It’s not good for dogs to bark, but it’s not good for people to bark.
Zhou said that there are three times in life:
One is when you find that you are no longer the center of the world;
Second, when you find that no matter what When you can’t do anything no matter how hard you try;
Third, it’s time to accept your ordinaryness and enjoy it.
The so-called growth is the process of constantly refreshing one’s cognition and saying goodbye to the immature self in the past.
On the road of growth, only by mastering the following three keys can you not get lost and believe more and more.
One of the keys: read more
I have seen such a set of data:
A country that accounts for about 0.3% of the global population nation, but won up to 20% of the Nobel Prize.
Not only that, they also won 38% of the National Science Awards, 27% of the Turing Awards and 42% of the Neumann Awards.
Seeing this, maybe you already have the answer in your heart.
Yes, they are Jewish.
After suffering inhuman persecution and long-term exile, the Jews are still striving for self-improvement and have made proud achievements in many fields.
The fundamental reason is that they cannot do without their good habit of reading.
As the well-known Jewish proverb says:
“When you are so poor that you have to sell your surplus to keep yourself alive, the first thing you should sell is gold, precious stones , land, and houses. And the books you own at home, you can’t sell them unless you have to.”
Many people think that a person’s greater self-confidence comes from wealth and status.
In fact, after a person has read a lot of books, the tenacity and wisdom in his blood are his strongest cards.
When watching “The Shawshank Redemption”, what impressed me the most was Andy, the protagonist who was wronged.
Because of his financial strength, he was protected by prison guards.
Because he can recite the Bible proficiently, he gained the upper hand in the negotiation with the warden.
Knowing household registration policies well, he quietly recreated an identity for himself.
Later, Andy finally realized the “impossible” escape plan, also because he understood geology and meteorology. ……
As Ji Xianlin said, “Reading can make you run forever.”
A person’s growth starts from grasping The key to reading begins.
In reading, you can exercise your way of thinking and gain powerful potential abilities:
You will jump out of cognitive limitations and look at problems from another height;
You will let yourself continue to surpass yesterday’s self, instead of stagnant;
Your life will be full of resilience, even if you fall into a trough, you can still be confidentDoubly counterattack. ……
The second key: Don’t talk nonsense
I like such little stories very much.
There was a young monk who was talented and intelligent, but he was arrogant and domineering, and he caused a lot of trouble.
The Zen master saw it, so don’t blame him.
One day, the Zen master gave the young novice a pot of tuberose for him to observe.
The next day, the little novice said excitedly to the Zen master: “This potted flower is awesome. It blooms in the middle of the night, but in the early morning, it puts away its petals.”
The Zen master asked : “Did he bother you by blooming at night?”
The little novice shook his head again and again: “From full bloom to close, never made a sound.”
The Zen master smiled, “Really? I thought there would be a quarrel when the flowers bloomed.”
The little novice bowed his head in shame after hearing the Zen master’s words, and stopped talking nonsense.
The flowers are silent and fragrant.
Most of the truly capable people are slippery and low-key.
The thinker Bacon said: “Implicit and decent is more valuable than eloquence.”
Zeng Guofan was outspoken when he was young, and he boasted that he spoke straightforwardly, which offended many people.
It wasn’t until he almost lost his life that Zeng Guofan suddenly realized, reflected on himself, and set a rule for himself:
Before going to bed every day, think about whether there is any problem with speaking all day.
Later, he became a person who seldom talks, and he only seeks the word “stability” in doing things.
Because of his low profile, Zeng Guofan accepted countless talents and became a famous minister.
Zhuangzi said: “Dogs don’t bark well, and people don’t bark well.”
The low-level people are always rude and have no scruples.
The higher the level of the person, the more they know the basics, and they don’t say a word.
After all, opening your mouth is instinct, and being able to shut up is a skill.
Live a lifetime and keep your mouth shut, so that you can be calm and keep your heart.
Knowing how to speak carefully is a person’s higher cultivation.
The third key: make friends cautiously.
How important is a person’s circle?
There is an interesting answer on the Internet:
“Simply put, you and a wild goose flying together can see the vast sky; sitting with a pig, you All I could see was binge eating and lethargy.”
In our lives, people come and go all the time.
What kind of person you are with, what kind of life you will have.
See a story from a netizen.
Amethyst and the three girls who are sleeping with her are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination.
At the beginning, we agreed to study hard and supervise each other.
But after two weeks, the roommates started to be lazy, which they called “happy study”.
In a relaxed atmosphere, Jingzi also sleeps together until noon every day and stays up late at nightWatch drama.
It is not a problem to read books for a short time every day and use exams to comfort yourself.
After the postgraduate entrance examination results came out, as expected, the entire dormitory failed.
Looking at the terrible scores, Jingzi suddenly realized that she now decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination for World War II.
After that, Jingzi contacted several principals of the school and studied with them.
The new researcher is quite diligent and has a specific plan for each review.
Everyone is in the study room together, and the most conversations with each other are discussion topics.
In an atmosphere of self-discipline, Jingzi is no longer obsessed with watching theaters, and goes out early and returns late every day, devoting herself to her studies.
After taking the postgraduate entrance examination this year, Jingzi was admitted to his favorite prestigious school.
There is an old saying: “Choosing friends is one of the most important things for people to make friends and resources online. The success or failure of a person’s life is related to the wisdom of friends, so don’t be careless.”
The rest of my life is short and it really matters who I’m with.
Make friends with hardworking people, you will be ashamed of being lazy, and you will work hard with them.
Walk with excellent people, you will not be satisfied with mediocrity, you will continue to jump out of your comfort zone to cultivate yourself.
In the sea of life, who you meet is determined by fate.
But who we are with is up to us.
Choose a circle that allows you to grow, and only when you meet better people can you meet a better self.
Luo Zhenyu once said, “Growth is the gap between your subjective world and the objective world. If you fall into it, it is called frustration, and if you climb out, it is called growth.”
When you are at a low point, you might as well calm down and heal yourself in the book.
When standing on a high place, remember to be cautious and humble.
When you relax, remember to jump out of the circle that consumes you and chase the light.
Give it a like. For the rest of your life, I hope you can use these three keys to open the door to the ideal world, and you can see everything you like.