The term cold violence is very common among couples. When many couples encounter problems and don’t know what to do, they will choose cold violence to solve the problem, but the fact is that cold violence cannot solve the problem. Talk about the problem badly. Today we will take a look at how to deal with cold violence from boyfriends?
In my opinion, if you want to master the solution to cold violence , first of all we need to sort out the principle of cold violence, so let’s take a look at the principle of cold violence first.
1. Do not respond to any of your emotions
Emotions are usually divided into optimistic and negative. Cold violence is not limited to negative, it covers all emotions.
If you have a conflict with the other party, your negative energy is overwhelming, and the other party does not want to face you, and may choose to temporarily deal with it coldly. And his emotions are easily mistaken for cold violence.
In fact, this is not the case. This is just a boy’s handling of the situation. If he still doesn’t give you any response when you are happy, it means that you are really experiencing cold violence.
Second, I just want to separate
Presumably everyone should know that the goal of cold violence is to “break up”.
When girls can’t stand this kind of model, they will question boys and start to find fault. If the boys agree decisively after the girls propose to break up, it means that you are being cold and violent.
On the contrary, if you propose to break up, but the other party does not respond or agree, it means that you only have some minor problems in getting along, and you are far from breaking up.
Third, cold violence does not need any reason
Either there is a reason for breaking up, then it is because of the lead There is no reason for the real cold and violent breakup, and there is no explanation.
Some girls will say that he will only engage in cold violence after breaking up or every time he quarrels.
In fact, because there are too many similar conflicts in getting along, and they are not dealt with in a timely manner in normal times, it slowly evolved into “cold violence”.
The stage of cold violence:
Stage ①: When you are in love, no matter how busy the boy is, he will arrange time to chat with you and date, but now he will not spare time. If you Looking for him, he also responded coldly: “I’m busy!” This is the beginning of cold violence.
Stage ②: Your intuition is very accurate, and you begin to feel the changes in your boyfriend. You ask: “Why are you ignoring me these days?” The other party will not give you a positive explanation, but say: “No, I’m just busy, don’t think too much about it.” It seems to have eased , does not actually resolve.
Stage ③: You areIf you are forced to break up, when the indifference of the other party has exceeded the range you can bear, you may choose to say the breakup first, but in fact you are just talking, and the intention is to get the other party’s recovery. At this time, it depends on whether the boy is What do you think.
The above is the principle of boyfriend cold violence shared with you. I believe everyone is clearer. Next time, let’s take a look at how we should deal with cold violence. See you next time~!